In a medium-sized saucepan combine milk, cream of wheat, salt, vanilla, cinnamon sticks, clove powder, 2 cups of water, and half the sugar. Stir until the sugar has dissolved and taste (it's safe to do so), add more sugar if you find it necessary (I found 1/2 cup too sweet, but too sweet is the preferred sweetness for some people, so do it to your taste). Let it rest for 5 minutes.: Right away you will notice the aroma begin to build as the milk and cinnamon mingle, a soft fragrant steam rising from the pot. The resting period lets the farina hydrate slightly so that when heat is applied it cooks evenly rather than clumping. As the mixture sits, tap the saucepan lightly and you may hear a subtle quiet, indicating the grains are absorbing liquid. A tip I use is to whisk after the rest to ensure uniform distribution of the grains; if you skip this, you risk having dense pockets of undercooked farina. One common mistake here is rushing to turn on the heat while the grains are not evenly moistened, which leads to uneven cooking and a grainy finish. Pay attention to the dissolved sugar; it should no longer feel gritty against the spoon, which tells you the base has integrated properly.
Heat over medium heat stirring constantly to prevent it from sticking to the pot. When it breaks the boil, add butter and lower the heat to very low. Simmer stirring until it reaches the desired consistency, taking into consideration it will get much thicker when it cools down. I suggest a thick but still liquid consistency.: As the pot warms on medium, you will hear a gentle, consistent sound as bubbles begin to form around the edges, and a rotating ribbon of steam will lift from the surface. Continuous stirring is essential here to keep the farina from settling and scorching on the bottom, which would introduce a bitter, burnt note. When you see the mixture briefly come to a rolling point of small bubbles across the surface, that is the moment to add the butter , which will melt and create a glossy sheen. Reducing to very low lets the porridge finish cooking slowly, yielding a velvety texture rather than a gummy one. Watch for visual cues, like the porridge becoming opaque and thick enough to coat the back of a spoon, while still flowing slowly. A frequent error is cooking too long on high heat, which tightens the starches and leads to a pasty texture. If you notice sticking despite stirring, lower the heat and stir more deliberately in long figure eight motions to redistribute heat evenly.
Remove from the heat and pour into individual servings, and sprinkle with the nutmeg. Serve warm.: Once removed from the heat, the pot releases a last round of steam carrying the rich notes of clove and cinnamon . Pouring into bowls, you will see the porridge smooth out and settle, giving a glossy surface where the butter has emulsified into the grain. The final dusting of freshly grated nutmeg adds a bright, aromatic top note that you will notice on the first breath before the first spoonful. Serve while warm so you experience the full texture and fragrance; as it cools the porridge firms and the spices become a bit more subdued. A common misstep is letting it sit too long before serving, resulting in a set, thick consistency that loses some of its silkiness. If it thickens more than you like, gently rewarm with a splash of hot milk and stir until smooth.